There are other reasons to create a will above and beyond the simple
financial benefits of having one. Although I will get to those in a
minute, I want to first discuss some of the more psychological reasons
to having this important legal document and why you should do it now.
George Carlin, the irreverent comedian once said, "we buy a house and
fill it with stuff. When we have too much stuff, we move to a bigger
house." But to many of us, that stuff has value beyond the financial
and those possessions, no matter how mundane or ordinary, do carry a
certain value that may not be monetary. A will can, as they are fond
of saying, provide peace of mind for the one writing the will and
greatly help your loved ones.
As a legal document, a will can designate how those possessions are
divided and to whom. These details should be discussed openly with
spouses and recipients of these inheritances. While there are personal
bridges to cross when writing this document - the most important,
dealing with your own and eventual mortality - they can also be very
helpful to those that survive your passing.
The first step is naming or finding an executor. This person, whether
it be a relative or close friend, should be aware of their
responsibility and be able to carry out your wishes in a difficult
time. This person will deal with often fractured families and grieving
survivors. Having someone level-headed and comfortable with their
responsibilities will make it easier for everyone concerned,.
This person should be made aware in advance of the appointment and any
instructions should be put in writing. While this is not necessary, it
is often easier for the executor to execute your wishes if they have
some sort of reference document. The key is to create this appointment
while you are still in good health and able to think things through.
Most importantly, be specific.
For parents of young children, this might also be the person(s) you
want to raise your offspring, provide for them the way you would, and
perhaps give them the same set of values that you have. For people who
have grown children, the executor should be someone close and
generally amiable to other family members. You would be surprised at
the reactions of those close to you, many of whom may feel slighted or
misinterpret your wishes. Either way, the executor should be a strong
willed person who is able to follow your requests and deal with the
financial underpinnings of your estate.
Discussing these things with your children, especially if you are
older, becomes incredibly important. Most folks find the conversation
awkward and difficult. It means coming to grips with your own
mortality as well as forcing your children to understand that your
death is inevitable.
This becomes doubly important when only one parent is writing the
will. If you are an only child, suggest (strongly) that their house be
placed in a trust. This will allow the house to pass into your name
without the usual wait for probate. Probate is essentially the legal
proceeding that divides the property based on the presence of the
will. If there is no will, the probate judge will need to follow the
law of the state, sometimes tying assets up for months awhile
creditors are contacted and the estate is settled. But that is worse
case scenario.
In many cases, the cost of simple trust and lawyer's fees involved are
a small fraction of the costs of probate, which in many states can
amount to 3-5% of the home's worth.
There are a staggering amount of folks that currently are without a
will. According to a survey that was conducted in 2003 by FindLaw.com,
57% of households with something to lose should a death occur, have no
will or directions for their heirs.
A will, although a wonderful document, often does not give all of the
financial details of a person's life. The executor or the children
should also know where all of the bank statements, tax returns,
investments and insurance policies as well as any other pertinent
financial documents.
The best thing you can do is to create a list of assets, directions on
how you want your worldly goods divided, and even more importantly,
how you want your medical procedures to be handled in the case of
complete incapacitation.
But don't wait. If you have property or someone who depends on you,
find an attorney and make a will today.